Me and my husband both read a book I thought was a good read called “If you’re in my office its already too late”. In this it talked a lot about different marriages, etc and how those marriages could have ended differently if they communicated etc. The one thing we still do from that book (not often but we do) is “hit send now” where you email the other person and say what you are feeling and the other person reads it, takes it in but does not reply to it. At some point we may talk about it but for the most part we leave it where it is and let the person say what is on their mind.
One way to strengthen our friendship would probably be to have fun with each other. Of course, we laugh and joke, but we need to forget that yes, we are married so have responsibilities and yes, we are parents, so we are constantly pulled in different directions. We are also two people that had fun together. We do still have fun; however, the other two take over more. When we go out the conversation somehow goes back to the house or children when it should be a break from all realities even for just a little bit of time.
Thank you for sharing and replying. I’m no expert by any means. It does help however to be random, especially in conversation. That is an approach I take. Being completely random, which in return gets a random response. life is life. Going out to dinner seems to be the norm. However, I firmly believe that within a marriage, the two people need to consistently experiment and explore. This way you get to learn things about your partner that you never knew or forgot were there. For example, you might discover that your partner loves collecting coins. And he may discover that you are actually an amazing painter. But you won’t know until people surround them selves around something new to spark something now.
Me and my husband both read a book I thought was a good read called “If you’re in my office its already too late”. In this it talked a lot about different marriages, etc and how those marriages could have ended differently if they communicated etc. The one thing we still do from that book (not often but we do) is “hit send now” where you email the other person and say what you are feeling and the other person reads it, takes it in but does not reply to it. At some point we may talk about it but for the most part we leave it where it is and let the person say what is on their mind.
One way to strengthen our friendship would probably be to have fun with each other. Of course, we laugh and joke, but we need to forget that yes, we are married so have responsibilities and yes, we are parents, so we are constantly pulled in different directions. We are also two people that had fun together. We do still have fun; however, the other two take over more. When we go out the conversation somehow goes back to the house or children when it should be a break from all realities even for just a little bit of time.
Thank you for sharing and replying. I’m no expert by any means. It does help however to be random, especially in conversation. That is an approach I take. Being completely random, which in return gets a random response. life is life. Going out to dinner seems to be the norm. However, I firmly believe that within a marriage, the two people need to consistently experiment and explore. This way you get to learn things about your partner that you never knew or forgot were there. For example, you might discover that your partner loves collecting coins. And he may discover that you are actually an amazing painter. But you won’t know until people surround them selves around something new to spark something now.