You're Destined for Misery
How to prevent it.
When asked what you want to do, deep down you say you just want to help people. Many of us have that inclination. To serve. To help. To do something or be a part of something bigger than ourselves. However, so often we don’t. Our intentions are there or rather, our minds. Yet, our actions don’t align with that. Why?
Tom Bilyeu from Impact Theory recently shared in a podcast the reason we’re destined for misery:
“you’re destined for misery if you cannot figure out a way to serve people and to do something awesome for other people.”
Fresh off the heels of Mother’s Day you already have a giving spirit. Perhaps you purchased your mom or someone who is a mom a gift. Or you made something meaningful or had lunch together. Use that energy to figure out where and how you can serve. What awesome things you can do for people.
Generosity is a beautiful experience for the giver and the receiver. Dave Ramsey, Personal Finance Expert says:
“The most fun you’ll have with money is through generosity.”
Dave Ramsey admittedly shares that he builds wealth to have “outlandish generosity.”
So you say to yourself, I can’t give money I don’t have, I’m not rich.
Wanting to be generous and actually doing it are two different things. You don’t need money to give. You can give your time. Your skills. Your cooking. Your car by giving rides to those who have doctors appointments. You can open your home up to foster children or pets. And yes, you can give some money. You can start with $5 or $10 and work that into your financial plan each week or month. Giving has been seen as only writing a check. You can also give your prayers. You can read books to kids at a daycare or library.
There are plenty of studies that support the claim that generosity is contagious and great for our health. When you give it feels good! You open up all type of chemical reactions in your brain and body. Some studies have suggested that the giver experiences a high from the act of generosity.
Give because it’s the right thing to do. Give because you want to. How can you start? Well, in line when buying the morning coffee offer to pay for the person standing behind you or the car behind you. That homeless person holding up a sign, stop and ask them what they need. It may not be money. It could be socks or hygiene products. Maybe there is some cause you believe in and you can give them $5. In order to give all you must have is the desire to give. Not millions of dollars.
By serving others in any way possible we live happier lives. So if you’re looking for how giving benefits you, there you have it. You become a happier person just by giving to others.
Thought Provoking Question 1 : What is stopping you from buying the person behind you coffee?
Thought Provoking Question 2 : What can you give other than money?
Thought Provoking Question 3 : What is your first memory of giving or being given to? How did that feel?
Dan Roman is a Husband, Father, and writer that releases a daily blog. A quick read on sharing wisdom and asking though-provoking questions.
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