When You Can't Decide, Pick Change

We’re faced with some hard decisions at times. Or torn by the path to take. There’s a fork in the road, left or right?

Or you can take Jay Z’s approach in one of his rap lyrics in his 2001 track Renegade, “I drove by the fork in the road and went straight.”

A rap lyric doesn’t always help. A pros and cons list doesn’t either. When we’re faced with a choice, there are the obvious things that the choice impacts. Additionally, there are emotional implications to that decision. The choice may be relocation. Quitting a job. Starting or closing a business. Staying with your partner or leaving. Well, what about the kids? You’re torn between selling your home or keeping it. Buying a home or renting for another year. Repairing the car or just letting it go.

The choices are endless. The obstacles, unrelenting. The challenges, are all around you.

In Kevin Kelly’s new book Excellent Advice for Living: Wisdom I Wish I'd Known Earlier he writes, “whenever you can’t decide which path to take, pick the one that produces change.”

Warning: it might hurt. It may be painful. It won’t be easy. It will be emotionally expensive. Change is hard to accept for some. However, change is a certainty.

When you cannot decide, pick the path that produces the most change. The change is going to happen anyway. Pick it on your terms. Your way. On your time. This isn’t some woo-woo thing that change just happens and you should accept it. It’s actually quite practical. Through change you grow who you are. You develop new skills, abilities and ways of looking at the world. Your decision making processes are impacted and so are the people around you. Your identity changes and so does what you value in life.

Change can be hard. Change can also be grand. You get to pick what produces the most change and how you view that change.

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Thought Provoking Questions : What produces the most change? How can you get closer to that?

Daily I write and release a daily meditation. A quick read. Sharing wisdom and asking thought-provoking questions. Influenced by the obstacles, success and failures in my life and of others. Using history, books, current events, philosophy, and ancient wisdom. These writings are actionable, thought-provoking, designed to make your life better. 

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