The Key to Not Quitting

March 19, 2025

Asking for help is not quitting, it is refusing to quit. Yet, we find ourselves too filled with pride or ego, to ask for help. We think we're making things less complicated by not asking for help. However as we know, more trouble ensues. Instead, we should turn to those we're close to for help. Maybe it isn't help you need, but guidance or assistance. Sometimes we can't do what we can't and we must rely on someone else.

We don't know who might say yes or who has what you need. They could already have one and its been sitting in their garage. Someone can lend it to you or simply from acting generous, purchase you a new one. They could openly give you their time. Or know someone that knows someone who can. The shots not taken are always missed.

In adulthood cultivating relationships is hard. We no longer find ourselves in environments that aid that - like grade school or university. As these relationships we once had evaporate, so does our will to ask for help. We feel perpetually alone to tackle life and all it presents us. Here's the thing - no one is self made. So, ask for help. Tell a friend, relative or neighbor. Someone can be a crutch in a much needed time in your life.

It happened to me. I wouldn't ask my wife for help. Thinking to myself that 'it was obvious, why should I ask for help when she canj, ust step in?' This approach created more issues and ultimately, we found ourselves focused on the new issues while ignoring what caused them - my inability to ask for help. These days, I openly ask her or tell her what I need or where I am deficient. This has created a new level of trust for us both and moments of strength - that will strengthen the work and life ahead of us.

Imagine - turning to the person or people closest to you and telling them what you need and why. Yes its vulnerable and it will change everything.