Face Your Opponent
“Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced.” - James Baldwin
Some things won’t change. We can’t wish it into existence. We cannot manifest it. Steven Pressfield says, “manifestation is bullshit.”
The best and only way is to face your opponent. You cannot change something you decide not to show up for.
A misunderstanding in the office. Ineffective communication with your partner. Rebellious behavior from your kid. The disagreement with a friend or relative. The neighbor that is very rude and disrespectful.
The easy choice is to avoid it. Kicking the can down the road. But that’s expensive. All of the maintenance of these things in your life requires, you’re pushing it off. Delaying. Inevitably, that maintenance will be due. Can you bare the cost when the payment or the effort is expected?
By not facing a problem, it is like buying things you cannot afford to buy on a credit card. Eventually, that payment, plus interest, comes due. And you cannot afford it.
What you face now may not be changed right away or at all. Still, wake up and show up. If the impossible is proven to be that, then what you have to gain is what you can learn in the process. Building up your resilience for life. What you can walk away with when you go towards the next thing. The next job. The next relationship. Your other friends. Etc.
You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. And you will miss the change you’re looking for by not trying. It may not even be an issue with a person. It could be within yourself. How you treat yourself. How you speak to yourself. Facing yourself is often the hardest thing. You’ll have reasons not to. Excuses. Distractions. More important things to do than to sit with your stuff and face it.
You can face it and influence change. Or, not face it and never learn what was possible. It’s your life. You decide.
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Thought Provoking Questions : Will you stand up and face it or hide?
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