Atomic Relationship Habits
Small changes can grow and change your marriage.
The details matter, in life, in money and relationships. Often we are courting someone we like. Someone we find attractive and interesting. So much energy and time goes into the pursuit of that person. Then, once given an opportunity even more energy and time goes into ensure the “feelings are mutual.”
Down the line however, we get complacent. We stop trying, we stop putting in the energy, effort and time.
Dr. John Gottman in The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, talks about the leading indicators for a successful relationship and marriage is keeping the friendship alive. Go on dates, keep the spontaneous behaviors coming, and work on keeping the friendship between the two of you growing.
Too often people get together, get married, have kids and their lives becomes about work and kids. Then, the kids move out and Mom and Dad don’t know what to do next. For the last 18–20 years all they’ve done is work and be parents.
Tiny things can show your partner you love and appreciate them. Make them coffee in the morning, get them their favorite pastry a few times per week, massage their feet, keep the temperature at home comfortable, bring them on a date, gift them something just because and make it your job to treat them like a friend. Your best friend. It’s not about expectations, but acts, small acts you can do each day, week or month to keep the courtship alive. You shouldn’t just chase your partner when you want them. Dating is not something that only happens in the beginning.
Think back to the things you used to do when you first started dating. What can be repeated? We all change with time, however, we don’t have to change how we engage our partners.
Dan Roman is a Husband, Father, and writer that releases a daily blog. A quick read on money, marriage, parenting, self-improvement, development and his thoughts. Dan is also Founder/Creator of Roman Solutions, a Personal Finance Firm that currently provides coaching and education.
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