35 Thoughts From a 35-Year-Old
This is the first year I actually gave a shit about the number. For some reason 35 opened my eyes. This might very well be the halfway…
This is the first year I actually gave a shit about the number. For some reason 35 opened my eyes. This might very well be the halfway point for me, for many of us. I am getting older. I feel it in my body, I see it in how I dress and especially what I value. Yes, I’m old. Not in age, but in wisdom.
When you have kids no one cares how old you are or even how you are.
I never liked birthdays. I rather think of the idea that I’ve died 35 times. So that each year I live it. Not to “the fullest” like some bullshit cliche. Instead, live it the way I want. By my standards, desires and values. The fullest doesn’t mean shit if it’s not who you are.
Life is better with less social media. I am working towards growing my business, brand and recognition. But I often see myself getting sucked into the social media vortex. So I take many social media breaks. It’s good for you.
Money is pointless. You work for it and you don’t even get to see it anymore. You literally don’t even hold cash anymore. It’s just a number on a screen telling you how much you earned or have.
You work really hard to get money to then stress about how you are going to spend it.
You spend 40 hours per week working for the money and spend it in 40 minutes.
Cold water plunges are incredible. Do it. Or just take a cold shower. 30 seconds or a minute is all it takes.
People love themselves more than anything else, yet are focused on what others think.
Wanting stuff is cool. But I would rather have an experience I’ll never forget.
We want too much stuff and can’t let go of it. We even spend hundreds of dollars each month storing our stuff. It’s pointless. It’s a waste of money. And needs to be addressed.
There is an expert now for everything. Do your own research and come to your own conclusions. It’s better for you.
You deserve to have interesting stories to share. If you don’t have any, that means you aren’t living the way you should be. Try shit. Be around other people especially if they’re different from you.
Kids learn from watching not by doing what we say. I kissed my wife once, not knowing our daughter was watching. Well my daughter wanted to give my wife, her mom a kiss too! Except our daughter used her tongue, the way I did. I had no idea she was there or even watching. I’ve been a lot more cautious since.
Keeping the theme alive on how children learn; my daughter poops on her own now. It was a struggle. But when she did it the first time without a diaper, I was coaching her. Encouraging her and she finally went. I cried. She was excited. It was a great memory. Well, now when I go poop she encourages me from outside the bathroom door. “You can do it papi.” Show your kids how to live. Don’t tell them.
Jerry Seinfield said once that all time is quality time. You can be eating cereal in the middle of the night, laying down on the couch, or whatever else. All time with your children is quality time. So don’t stress yourself out to do something big or meaningful. They just want you close, period.
I’m in my second marriage with the same woman. My 2nd wife is much better than my 1st.
Just because YOU don’t like something does not mean you should trash the opinion of someone who does like it. You don’t, they do. That’s that.
Not everything requires an opinion. You actually have the right to not have an opinion. And move on.
Read, as often as you can. Have a book that you read almost as you would eat a snack. A light read, something you can easily enjoy without effort. Than have a heavy read, your “meat and potatoes.” Always be reading. It takes you to another dimension.
Re-read books you have. Give away the ones you purchased that you won’t read.
Build a life. Not just wealth. Plenty of wealthy people have terrible relationships. The founder of Kinkos, Paul Orfalea, said that wealthy is when your adult children want to spend time with you.
Choose your spouse carefully. They will set the tempo of your life.
Marriage is grand. Divorce is $100 grand. Don’t get married if you’re not ready. It will cost you financially but more importantly, emotionally.
You only control how you respond to what happens to you. Not what happens to you.
“Your success as a family… our success as a nation… depends not on what happens inside the White House, but on what happens inside your house. ” ― Barbara Bush
President Reagan said the scariest thing to hear is, “I’m from the Government and I’m here to help.”
Things don’t have to be extreme. You can be a republican but vote for a Democrat. Or vice versa. Doing the right thing does not have to be a hard choice.
Big government is the problem, not big business. Said beautifully by President Reagan.
Communication is not the number one aspect to a successful marriage. Having a great friendship and healthy courtship with your partner is. Most people think they can communicate well, but actually they suck.
We don’t have all the answers or tools. Life should be about constantly learning. Education does not stop once you graduate from school.
The morning routine is overrated and it does not lead to success.
Speaking things into existence is bull shit. What matters is work, effort and action.
People only want the easy way out. The short cut. The fast way. The path with least resistance. But you also want to be a billionaire. You think a billionaire got there the fast way? The easy way? The taking shortcuts way? NO.
Debt is dumb, cash is king, and the paid off home-mortgage has taken the place of the BMW as the status symbol of choice.
Let’s see what I can learn for next year.
Dan Roman is a Husband, Father, and writer that releases a daily blog. A quick read on money, marriage, parenting, self-improvement, development and his thoughts. Dan is also Founder/Creator of Roman Solutions, a Personal Finance Firm that currently provides coaching and education.
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